Monday, July 23, 2007

I just don't understand some things...

My Sister has decided that she's getting a divorce... and I'm devestated for my brother-in-law.

I always have thought that we was an angel to her... he's SUCH a good person. He's put up with a lot of crap over the 9 years of marriage (and two years of dating)... I mean, my Sister is HIGH maintenance, and at times TOO high maintenance.

And he was a trooper through it all.

She's decided that she's just not happy and can't continue to live her life that way.

I can't blame her for wanting to be happy. I WANT her to be happy. No one should live their entire live unhappy because they don't want to 'hurt someone else's feelings'.

I just don't know what a divorce is like... when there's not a 'bad guy'. My brother-in-law didn't 'do' anything wrong.

And so he's devestated... and my heart is just broken for him.

He's been my brother for almost 10 years... and now, he's supposed to be live evictecd from our family... it just doesn't seem right.

I cry each time I think about it... everytime he emails me... I'm also feeling guilty that I don't 'have time' to spend with him. Hell, he's invited me to dinner (I'm going) and we're not even going until NEXT Monday because I have to work or already have plans I can't really get out of.

I just feel horrible!

1 comment:

Bahia said...

These things have a way of working themselves out. Just remember that it's not your problem. I know you are taking this really hard. I hope you can find a way to let everyone know you love them and care deeply, but at the same time, get some emotional distance for your own sake. People in toxic situations drag everyone they can down with them. It's especially hard on the ones closest to to them. -Just try to keep a little bit of the beauty of your vacation with you. Hold on to the sunsets and palm trees in your mind and take a deep breath.